Category Archives: parental alienation/parental alienation syndrome

Mistakes Alienated Parents Make: 1. Losing Your Temper

Alienated children can be rude, obnoxious, and hateful. They express and provoke great hostility. It is understandable that the target of gross mistreatment feels like responding in kind. But losing your temper with your children will just make things worse. … Continue reading

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“It really seems pretty obvious.” – BBC radio presenter on parental alienation as child abuse

BBC’s award-winning radio commentator, Jane Garvey, talked to Sarah Parsons, Principal Social Worker at Cafcass, and to Joanna Abrahams, a solicitor who specializes in cases of parental alienation. Regarding the recent Cafcass statement that parental alienation is child abuse, Garvey … Continue reading

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UK Agency Denounces Parental Alienation As Child Abuse

Behavior by one divorced parent that attempts to undermine a child’s relationship with the other parent—what I call “divorce poison”—has been denounced as child abuse by the chief executive of the Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service (Cafcass) … Continue reading

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Mistakes Alienated Parents Make: 2. Counter-rejection

In the early stages of alienation some rejected parents counter-reject their children. They rebuke the children for their negative attitudes, and tell them, in effect, “Shape up or ship out.” They expect, of course, the children to shape up. This … Continue reading

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Reuniting with Formerly Alienated Adult Children

Work with adult children who want to reconnect with a parent from whom they were alienated has several facets. I hear often from parents whose adult children have read Divorce Poison or viewed Welcome Back, Pluto and found answers to … Continue reading

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Hearing Children’s Voices

Children’s perspectives can enlighten decisions regarding custody and parenting plans, but different opinions exist about how best to involve children in the decision-making process. Payoffs and Pitfalls of Listening to Children discusses why most procedures for soliciting children’s preferences do … Continue reading

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Waiting for a Child’s Return: False Hope or Realistic Possibility?

A comment to one of my Facebook posts expressed pessimism regarding reconciliation with estranged children: “How to deal with it? Say goodbye and move on with your life! You will never get your children back…They are gone both physically and … Continue reading

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Underground Love

♪ Baby, baby/Where did our love go? ♪ One of the most disheartening and confounding aspects of parental alienation is the evaporation of your child’s lifelong love for you, sometimes in the blink of an eye. In most cases the … Continue reading

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Spare Children Sophie’s Choice

I have a long-standing interest in how best to address children’s needs in custody decisions while protecting children from harmful involvement in their parents’ disputes and litigation. You can find some of my work on this topic by clicking here. … Continue reading

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Ten Parental Alienation Fallacies

I am pleased to announce my new paper, published online earlier this month by the American Psychological Association (APA). Ten Parental Alienation Fallacies That Compromise Decisions in Court and in Therapy passed a peer review process and was published in … Continue reading

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